Sure it is fun to learn psychology. To simplify the meaning of psychology, it is the science of the mind or mental states and processes where it also can be the science of human and animal behaviour. Some people use psychology as a strategy and even mental ploy. However, I am not going to further explain about the detailed of psychology. Today, I am going to write about the defence mechanism. Sigmund Freud was one of the psychologist that construct the idea of defence mechanism that how people behave to defend themselves. I have my own way on how I handle unpleasant thoughts, feelings and behaviours.
I am a person that cannot accept anything goes wrong in my life. There was time I got depressed when I did not get pointer that I want in my foundation last year. I tried to forget the pointer, just imagined that I got the dean's award and just moving forward. While I am denying with my own action, I was actually practicing to be more positive toward my life. I felt that if kept thinking about my marks, I will be more depressed and the easiest way to settle it is by saying that I already put a lot of effort on it and maybe the lecturer just wrongly mark my paper or I was just having a bad luck. It is not that I was projecting or blaming people for what I have done, but I am just using excuses to think positive by denying the fact. Another story was that I have been diagnosed for gastric and seafood allergic when I was 15 years old. I was naive and trying to act that I was so healthy and ate whatever I want, including seafood, even thought I knew that I will get in trouble if I eat any of it. This is actually to avoid dealing with painful feelings of my life that I do not wish to admit. Moreover, in 2012 both of my betta fish had died. We have been together for almost 2 years, but in the end they left me. I try to deny it by keeping their tank in my room. The water, sands and water plants are still in the tank. Sometimes if I get home, I accidentally feed the empty tank. Apparently, my mother was scolding me because I refuse to experience that painful moment. So, in these three stories I was using “denial” as my defence mechanism because I refuse to accept or acknowledge an anxiety-producing piece of information.
Hahaha, *okay laughing awkwardly.
{Oh, you can check (click the button below) which defence mechanism you apply. Because it can be more than 1.}
I am a person that cannot accept anything goes wrong in my life. There was time I got depressed when I did not get pointer that I want in my foundation last year. I tried to forget the pointer, just imagined that I got the dean's award and just moving forward. While I am denying with my own action, I was actually practicing to be more positive toward my life. I felt that if kept thinking about my marks, I will be more depressed and the easiest way to settle it is by saying that I already put a lot of effort on it and maybe the lecturer just wrongly mark my paper or I was just having a bad luck. It is not that I was projecting or blaming people for what I have done, but I am just using excuses to think positive by denying the fact. Another story was that I have been diagnosed for gastric and seafood allergic when I was 15 years old. I was naive and trying to act that I was so healthy and ate whatever I want, including seafood, even thought I knew that I will get in trouble if I eat any of it. This is actually to avoid dealing with painful feelings of my life that I do not wish to admit. Moreover, in 2012 both of my betta fish had died. We have been together for almost 2 years, but in the end they left me. I try to deny it by keeping their tank in my room. The water, sands and water plants are still in the tank. Sometimes if I get home, I accidentally feed the empty tank. Apparently, my mother was scolding me because I refuse to experience that painful moment. So, in these three stories I was using “denial” as my defence mechanism because I refuse to accept or acknowledge an anxiety-producing piece of information.
Hahaha, *okay laughing awkwardly.
{Oh, you can check (click the button below) which defence mechanism you apply. Because it can be more than 1.}